BBC Breakfast today had another “news” story about how another bloody recent study into childcare has proved that mothers with young children going back to work is terrible / fine (I switched over before I heard the outcome and all the same arguments re-hashed for the umpteenth time). But the bit that made me “GAH!!” was the intro, in which the presenter did his serious face and said how mothers “agonise” over the decision. This fits neatly with my theory, which is that it is now socially acceptable for mothers to either stay at home or go to work, as long as they feel like crap whatever they do.
I really need to come up with a better title if this is going to become a regular blog feature.
Article on GMTV this morning about putting babies in nurseries. A new study has shown that it helps their development. Or harms them irreparably. It’s always one or the other.
Reporter – “I’m in such and such nursery, where they have several babies under two years old. As a working mother myself, I know the heartache that each of the babies’ mothers must have felt when deciding to put them into a nursery.”
Right, so all the women must have been heartbroken. It’s not possible that one or two of them might have wanted to go back to work and for the baby to be looked after by professionals and to feel happy about that decision. They MUST feel guilty about it. Just the mums of course, not the dads.
Apparently the working mother v stay at home mother debate has progressed to the point where either option is acceptable, as long as the woman in question feels like crap. She can go to work, but she must feel “heartache” for having left her child. She’s not allowed to actually be quite cheerful about leaving her child in someone else’s care while she goes off to earn some cash and do grown up stuff. No, no, no…it must be torture for her, or else she’s not a proper mother.